Last week was my first full week staying home. The first day felt great! Waking up at 6am and prepping my little onefor school; making breakfast, packing her lunch sack, riding with my husband to take her to school, watching her walk into her classroom… can not believe how much time as flown by.
And now all I have is time. Time to lounge around, time to read a book, time to clean out every corner in the house, time to fold every towel and shirt in the house, time to pick up Joy from school, time to go through all her schoolwork, time for this, time for that; just time.
Surprisingly, I do not think I was ready for so much time. I have grown accustomed to not having time do anything, to now, time to do anything I want or need. I am not being rushed or pressed for deadlines, meetings, appointments, etc… I am not placing someone eles’s value of my time before my self value. No more of my time is used to be ridiculed, fussed at, or downright disrespected. I am completely liberated and free! Free to enjoy my time and choose how it is spent. Now this newfound freedom does not mean that I do nothing or use my time recklessly; I still value accountability, what it means I have freedom to choose how and what I spend time with or on.
Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you’ll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
It is not enough to just say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are worthless.
The Bureau of Labor Statistics shows that the average working eight hour day in a 40 hour work week adult in his/her lifetime will spend over 90,000 hours at work; that is approximately 73% of one’s life. The number is quite higher for those who work a 60-70 work week. In addition, in 2014, 64% Americans either cancelled or did not use their Vacation or PTO time. Over one third of them did it for work related reasons even though they felt they needed time off more than the year before. These stats are quite surprising when put in perspective; so much of our time is given to work and working. I want to be clear, I am not an advocate that women should not work or have careers, what I am an advocate for is for women, particularly Black woman, being cognizant of our time and where we place value in it. Subconsciously, I valued my time at work to be more important than my time at home with my family. Mainly that was due to me being a single parent mother and having to work to make ends meet and for me to grow into my career. My understanding of time and the value I am now placing on it really blossomed due to my husband’s perspective of time; he is very strategic with how he distribute his time and what he entertains in his life. He is very disciplined and organized; something I admire about him. I am very go as it flows with my time, sometimes I get too fluid with time. From watching him operate and conversations we have, it challenged me to look into how I spend my time and what I spend it on or who I spend it with. Thus I came to the solution, based on my circumstance, that more of my time was needed to be focused on my family, particularly our daughter. Watching her when I drop her off to school to her classroom from picking her up and doing homework assignments has truly showed me how time has gone. My chubby faced toddler is now a tall and slender kindergartener who is explaining to me the world through her eyes. I almost felt lost in the transition; like really, where did the time go?
So lesson learned from my first week staying home; the importance of valuing my time. At this time or stage of my life and family’s life, itis for me to be home and build my home with my husband. I feel blessed that I have been given this opportunity to grow and find value in something that is so priceless. Time.